Liar, Liar Pants on Fire....

Yesterday while I was working I got a call from a friend.  I was with a client so I couldn't take it.  She left a message.  I rarely listen to messages until they are a week old.  I don't know why....bad habit, I guess.  So, while I am driving to my next destination I call her back.

Here is how the conversation went:
Me:  Hi!
Her:  Thank God you called.  I told a lie and it is eating me alive.
Me: Oookaaay. (wondering what could she have lied about, did she lie to her husband? Her Mom?)
Her:  I lied to my boss.  He called me about a big meeting today and I told him I couldn't be there because my Grandma died!
Me:  Outburst of Laughter...You what!? Why would you do that?
Her: I don't know.  I think something is wrong with me.
Me:  Laughter again....Well....
Her:  Seriously, I lied to my boss.  It just slipped off my tongue and I just know I am going to get caught.  I think I should call him and tell him I lied.
Me:  You can't tell him you lied about that.  If you must tell him the truth is you had severe digestive problems and were too embarrassed to tell him and the grandma thing just slipped out. (thinking....that still sounds bad.)
Her:  Laughter.  That would be more lying.
Me: Oh yeah.
Her:  This is eating me alive.  I already called and scheduled to feed the homeless for an entire day because I feel so bad about this.
Me: Laughter.  That should be good for you. (thinking of the scene from Desperate Housewives when Gabby goes to the homeless shelter to see an old friend).
She:  I told my husband and he thinks I am crazy.  He yelled at me.
Me:  So, why did you need the day off.
Her:  I need a day to get organized and get control of my life.
Me:  Don't you get personal days.
Her: Yes.
Me:  What are you going to do if you Grandma dies next week?
Her:  I don't know.  Do I need to see a Therapist?
Me:  Well, I think everyone lies sometimes.  The difference is you feel guilty about it an many people don't.  Some people even begin to believe their lies. (....if she starts shopping for black dresses tell her to seek help).
Her:  What would you do if you lied to your boss.
Me:  I don't know.  I've never lied to my boss.
Her:  Thanks.  That just cut like a knife.  I really am a bad person.
Me:  No, I just have a VERY extremely flexible job and I don't have to lie when I need a day off...even if it was to stay and home and watch TV.
Her:  Have you ever lied?
Me:  Of course....then I had to think of a time I lied and confess it to her to help make her feel better.
Her:  You should blog about this.  Find out if other people lie and what they lie about.

So, what do you think?  She is not a bad person. That is why I laughed when she told me.  It was a bit surprising.  And she is under a lot of stress.  She needs to learn to say no.  I've had to figure out what is important and learn to say No.  I can't do everything.  I turns me into something ugly.

Leave me a comment and tell me about the worst lie you ever told.  Or a lie you told your boss.  You can leave it as an anonymous comment if you want.  And what do you think my friend should do.  She does not have the kind of job you can just leave and go to the next place. She is pretty well known in her field.  She is afraid this could ruin her reputation if it gets out.  Does she have to confess to her boss?

Avery & Willow....

This morning Willow was scratching on the kids doors and whining.  She woke them up.  After a little running around the dog was "dog tired".  She tried to go back to sleep on the couch.  Avery was not allowing that to happen.  LOL.

My Blue Period....

The famous artist Picasso had a few years where he painted everything in monochromatic colors (blue).  It is said that he friend commit suicide and that is what set off the blue period and many have thought it was a time of depression for Picasso.  They call it The Blue Period.

I think someday I will look back and think this is my blue period.  It isn't that I am particularly depressed.  This is just a very stressful time.  Jake has been out of work for a year and a half. We are quickly approaching the end of his unemployment and nothing looks that promising.  It is scary.  I think I've been fairly positive throughtout this entire process.  It has helped that I found my job right away and that I really enjoy what I do.  And I have enjoyed having Jake around more.  I love that while I am at work he is with the kids and they aren't with "an outside" person.  I hate what loosing his job has done to his self-esteem.  It is difficult to loose a job and even more difficult to not have another one after such a long time.  He is going to school.  That has been good for him.  But the schedule is grueling.  I get home and he leaves.  I really really dislike that part.  I also hate having limited money. We've talked about that before....

I know that God has a plan.  That doesn't mean I am going to like it.  I've also mentioned that a time or two.  I will admit at times I feel downright angry about it.  Then I feel guilty about feeling angry. 

This is my Blue Period. 

I work with people every day that honestly are only to be described as destitute.  It should put things in perspective for me.  I know I am blessed.  It doesn't take the worry away. 

We are starting to think outside the box as far as jobs.  It is a distinct possibility we will have to move.  It is almost devistating for me.  I cry when I think about it. 

This month has been so hard.  Not only are we stressed about the impending loss of income but my digital camera died.  I've been wanting a new one for a long time but NOW IS NOT THE TIME.  Then on Sunday our desktop died.  With pictures.  Pictures we haven't backed up for months.  Oh....and pictures we had backup to another hard drive that also crashed.  Oh and there were other important things on there like financial stuff and resumes.....  It is sickening.  I don't dare ask 'what else could go wrong'.  I am wiser than that. 

So, if you are the praying type....keep us in your prayers.  If you hear about any jobs...let us know.  I will keep you updated.

Sunday Morning Pictures....

Life is insane these days....Sorry I can't keep up.  Here are some pics from this morning!

Here is Elise's new hair style.....

Shockingly short, I know.  It was the best the pro's could do!

I haven't talked much about the dog lately.  She is getting big - gaining about 2 lbs a week!  We finally named her Willow.  She is a good dog. 

This morning Jake was reading to Elise & Willow.

 

I was making treats for church today...

 

Avery was eating the treats....

 

 

Then I really spoiled the kids with hot chocolate...

We are having a church picnic today & then I think we are going to relax.  Do we remember how to do that? 

Elise got a haircut.....

There just aren't words for this.....

Avery got a haircut...

Today Elise decided Avery needed a haircut.  If you look closely the left side is significantly shorter than the right side.  Oh, and check out the bang job.  Yikes.  Why oh why Elise????  I fixed what I could and it does look cute but I am so sad about the curls....

Christmas Shopping....

How would you feel if I bought you a gift from a thrift store?  Seriously?  Before you answer: Jake and I are contemplating buying all our Christmas gifts at the thrift stores this year...for many reasons.  #1. Financially it just makes sense.  #2.  It is good old fashion recycling.  #3.  I think it is fun....a game of sorts.  We might not be able to get everything thrifting but I am pretty sure we will do very well.  I already bought 2 sets of brand new looking board books for Avery & the cutest little Barbie dollhouse for Elise ($1.99 at The Salvation Army). It is in perfect condition but it is missing the accessories. I just looked it up on Amazon and new the item costs almost $140 - I am so excited! Today I stopped by Goodwill and found a fabulous gift for someone on my list (it may be you.....).  It is actually something I was thinking about getting the person already but much MUCH better than I would have been able to afford from a new retailer.  I am thrilled.  I think by starting early I will be able to do this! 

So...would you think less of the gift or the giver if you knew a gift was second-hand or inexpensive? 

Has this ever happened to you???

Today someone hijacked my blog and posted!  If you saw the post titled Travelers....well it wasn't from me.  It just had a link to it but I am highly annoyed.  I changed my password. Hope this doesn't happen again!

House for Sale.....

You should buy this house.